So Far So Good

So far, so good. I sent my husband 3 texts yesterday, one being somewhat risqué. He LOVED them! Since I'm focused on being proactive, I kissed him good on our hike. He liked that. Then we had some good sex last night after he told me (to relieve me of pressure, he later told me) that WE WERE NOT going to have sex. That's what happens when you watch The L Word! So far so good.

First Inner Shift

So, while I was searching for an image for the prior post and looking at lots of images of lovers and love, I experienced a feeling of LIGHTNESS (totally my favorite feeling!). I felt light because I knew that no matter the current state of my marriage, I AM BEING PROACTIVE in creating a healthy, loving marriage. That's all I need to make me happy. I have a strong need to know that I'm doing the right thing. I may not usually have the luxury of knowing that I'm doing the right thing, but when I do, I can feel it. I'm doing the right thing for my marriage. I'm going to add "to do the right thing" AND "to know I'm doing the right thing" to the needs list in my prior post.

Beginning in the Middle

This blog is a chronicle of living out my commitment to working on my relationship with my husband. We have lost a general sense of connection, and I don't want to give up on us, so I'm committing myself to taking daily actions steps to work on our relationship. This is the approach I take to every other aspect of my life, regarding something I want or need. The way I see it, I don't view myself as a successful businesswoman yet, but every day, whether I feel like it or not, I take action steps to grow my business. My marriage is more important to me than my business. So every day, I'm going to do several things:
1. Send him 3 texts/day
2. Thank him 3 times/day
3. Hug him when he leaves and comes home for at least 5 seconds. Maybe a kiss, too.
4. Offer him a daily massage
5. Wear the panties he likes
6. Kiss him when I can

So this blog is going to be a recording of how taking daily action steps affects our marriage. I'm hoping that I can come back to this blog and have proof that even if we're moving forward only in baby steps, we're still moving forward.

Peace.

I'd also like to think of ways that he can help me to meet my needs for peace of mind, freedom, relaxation and space: AND doing the right thing and knowing I'm doing the right thing, balance between my desires and my desire to please others (avoid muscular tension and headaches)
Ideas for him to do for me: massage, clean the kitchen...